So first I will talk about what I see and am looking for with a friend and there are multiple things that I find in people. When my "friends" stopped meeting the expectation of a friend, I just stopped being friends with. I don't want to lower my expectations or my parents expectations of myself just to have a friend or be called a friend.
What do I look for in a friend?
1.) Characteristic
- Do they have the same expectations that my family and I follow or is it a lower expectation of themselves?
- Do they act crazy, wild, wise, mellow,or shy and which is matching me the best at that stage of life?
- Do they have the same and equal heart for God and prayer?
2.) Family Expectation
- Do they follow the same rules?
- Do they act the same as me and my family?
3.) Parent Pass
- Do I think my parents will believe that this is the right friend?
- Do they meet my parents expectations?
- Do I have a parent pass on this friend?
X
( Parent Signature )
So make the adjustments that you would like and use it as your friend finder. And help you find your right friend.
So now I will tell you the story of my friend dilemma. So I met a girl in kindergarten and we decided to become good friends and we wanted to be a friend forever (BFF). We were friends in kindergarten,1st grade,2nd grade and e.t.c. in 2nd grade my mom met a friend that was a neighbor that and daughter my age and we became friends. She went to the same school as me and my other and I introduced her to my first friend. So they became friends and we were happy, but the second best friend found another friend and introduced her to us. So now we are 4 best friends. So it stayed at the number 4 until 4th grade and I met another friend she in my class and at recess I introduced her to the other and now it is 5. In 5th grade of elementary school, we had a special place that we went to at recess time it was a tree that gave off shade so we made it ours. It became a problem because boys and people would just come and mess with us and we told them to stop, but they didn't. It got to the point to were my first friend got very emotional and just pushed them to leave and we told on them and they adventitial left. It is now the end of the year and we are about to go to middle school. We were afraid that we would lose our connection in middle school because there were pods and we thought that we wouldn't be in the same pod. So that summer we got together and did an end of year party. At that party, i was expecting a real party but half of the time they were calling boys and doing that in didn't feel comfortable with. I told them to stop and they did then we did the real party. The next year in 6th grade my first 3 friends were all in the same pod. I was in a different pod and the fourth friend said that something had happened during camp and she left the group and I somewhat confused. By the end of the year, they had changed a lot and the same me. I wear appropriate clothing, not wearing makeup, and I wasn't buying expensive clothing or accessories. At the end of the year, my parents started giving me the talking that they wouldn't be with me forever and that I MIGHT have to leave the friendship chain. I didn't want to do it because I felt so insecure about myself and I thought " what would I do at lunch and were would I sit". The next year this year I sat at their table once but then I sat somewhere else. I final saw who they really were and it wasn't close to my expectation at all. But before that choose I talked to my mom and I finally told her what I was feeling and everything that was happening and together we made the chose that I leave.
So that is my friendship story and I hope I showed you what to do when you have a problem. The #1 thing you should do after you read this and you are having this problem yourself is go talk to your mom, dad or your guardian. You will feel so much better.
Motivational Song: Walk on Water; by Britt Nicole ;)
How do you deal with your friendship,leave a comment and I will make sure to respond as soon as possible. :) ;)
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